self-pity

self-pity and self-defined alienation is admittedly one of the easiest and most-resorted-to forms of definition of identity. the statement "you don't understand me", or the even more effective "nobody understands me" serves as self-justification for one's actions, an exit strategy in a losing argument, a holier-than-thou option in a powerplay, and ultimately a way of saying how different, special or unique one is compared to everyone else around. its irrefutability makes it always subjectively true for the speaker and its very act of saying the establishment of an alienating mindset and a position of identity. how convenient.